As Christians, we live in a broken world surrounded by people who are often lost, struggling to find their way, just as we once were before knowing Christ. We encounter brokenness daily—whether in the workplace, our families, or our friendships. Sometimes, in this broken world, we form deep relationships with people who don’t share our faith. While it is reasonable and necessary to befriend those who don’t know Christ, we must walk a careful path, retaining our Christian values and striving to be a positive influence while guarding our hearts against negative influences.
The Bible tells us that we are the world's light (Matthew 5:14-16), placed in this world not to hide away but to shine brightly for all to see. Part of living out this call is forming friendships with those who may not share our faith and extending love, grace, and compassion. Jesus Himself was often found eating with sinners and befriending those on the fringes of society (Matthew 11:19). He showed love and truth, not by compromising His values, but by living them out in a way that drew people toward God.
However, walking with non-believers comes with challenges. Proverbs 13:20 says, "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm." We are shaped by the company we keep, and it’s essential to remember that not all friendships will pull us closer to God. Sometimes, those we care about lead us into gossip, temptation, or even question our faith. While we are called to influence, we must not forget the importance of guarding our hearts and minds.
In 1 Corinthians 15:33, Paul warns us: _"Do not be misled: 'Bad company corrupts good character.'"_ It’s easy to think we are strong enough to resist negative influences, but the truth is, we can easily be swayed when we aren’t vigilant. Like a ship drifting slightly off course, a little compromise here or there can take us far from where we intended to be. It’s essential that while we seek to influence others, we also remain mindful of the impact they may have on us.
Christians must be in the world but not of it (John 17:14-16). We can engage with those not sharing our faith while standing firm in our beliefs. Our lives should reflect Jesus's love and truth, which often speaks louder than words. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." We can be that sharpening influence for others, offering wisdom, grace, and truth while keeping our spiritual integrity intact.
Even though we are called to love everyone, wisdom tells us to set healthy boundaries. Proverbs 4:23 says, _"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."_ In friendships with non-believers, we must be wise about the time and energy we invest, ensuring we aren’t being led away from our relationship with God.
Boundaries might mean:
- Limiting time spent in environments that lead to unhealthy behaviors.
- Redirecting conversations away from gossip or negativity.
- Be mindful of the emotional or spiritual toll the friendship may take on you.
These boundaries are not about rejecting the person but protecting your spiritual health and ensuring your influence remains positive. Sometimes, being a good friend means stepping back and not compromising your faith. In doing so, you maintain the integrity that will ultimately impact those who don’t know Christ most.
In every friendship, there is an opportunity to show the love of Christ. Colossians 4:5-6 reminds us to _"Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so you may know how to answer everyone."_
Grace and truth go hand in hand. While it’s essential to be loving and accepting, we also must speak the truth when needed. This could be gently steering a conversation toward hope, forgiveness, or sharing your experience of God’s love. Sometimes, just living your faith out boldly, with kindness and integrity, is the most powerful witness you can offer.
If you are growing frustrated with a friend who doesn’t seem to change, remember that it’s not your job to convert them. You must reflect Christ’s love and let God work in your heart. Jesus tells us that no one comes to the Father unless He draws them (John 6:44). You can plant seeds, but God causes the growth.
Living in a broken world and dealing with broken people is part of our Christian journey. In our friendships, especially with non-believers, we are called to shine the light of Christ while guarding our hearts against negative influences. It’s a delicate balance of love, truth, and wisdom.
By retaining your Christian values, setting healthy boundaries, and relying on God ’s strength, you can navigate these friendships in a way that glorifies Him. Remember that your life may be the only example of Christ that some people see. Be a light, and trust that as you live out your faith, God works in you and through you to bring His love to a broken world.
_"Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."_ – Matthew 5:16
