We’ve all been there. You’re scrolling through your feed when something stops you in your tracks. Maybe it’s a post that rubs you the wrong way, a comment that feels like a personal jab, or a news headline that makes your blood boil. Before you know it, your fingers are flying across the keyboard, ready to post the perfect clapback or vent your frustrations for the world to see.
But let’s hit pause for a moment.
Social media can feel like a battleground, but as women of faith, we’re called to respond differently. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us,
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
That applies just as much to our online words as it does to face-to-face conversations.
The internet has given us an instant platform to share our thoughts, opinions, and frustrations. But here’s the thing: once we post something, it’s out there. Even if you delete it later, someone might have already seen it—or worse, screenshotted it!
So before you post or comment, it’s worth asking yourself:
✅ Why am I posting this?Is it to encourage, educate, or connect with others? Or am I venting, trying to prove a point, or letting my emotions take over?
✅ Will this glorify God?Does what I’m about to say reflect the love, kindness, and wisdom God calls me to show? Or is it coming from a place of anger, pride, or frustration?
✅ How would I feel if this went viral?Imagine your post being shared far and wide, with people commenting on it. Would you be proud of it, or would you cringe?
Let’s say your friend posts something controversial, and you strongly disagree. Your first instinct might be to jump in with a rebuttal. But pause. Instead of firing off a heated comment, consider taking it to prayer:
"Lord, how can I respond to this in a way that honors You?"
Sometimes, the best response is no response at all. Other times, a private message filled with grace and understanding can do far more good than a public debate.
To help guide your online interactions, here are five biblical principles to keep in mind:
1. Pause and Pray First
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19
Before you respond or post, pause and pray. Ask God for wisdom and clarity. Allow your emotions to settle before taking action.
2. Speak Words of Life
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” – Ephesians 4:29
Make it your mission to post comments and content that encourage, uplift, and glorify God. If your words won’t build up, it may be best to hold them back.
3. Choose Kindness Over Quarrels
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” – Proverbs 17:14
If you feel an argument brewing in the comments, choose to disengage rather than escalate. Not every battle is worth fighting.
4. Seek Peace in Conflict
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18
Instead of letting frustration fuel your words, ask yourself how you can foster peace and understanding, even in disagreement. A gentle, thoughtful response (or no response) speaks volumes.
5. Reflect Before You Post
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8
Before posting or commenting, reflect on whether your words align with these qualities. If they don’t, consider holding back.
Social media isn’t going anywhere, and it can be a beautiful tool for connection and encouragement when we approach it with wisdom. As women striving to reflect Christ, let’s commit to using this platform in a way that brings light instead of darkness.
So next time your emotions are running high, remember this: it’s okay to step back, pray, and let the moment pass.
Grace isn’t just for others—it’s for you, too.
Let’s be women who shine brightly on social media, not because we’re perfect, but because we’re intentional. Because we think before we post, pray before we speak, and seek to glorify God in everything—even our comments.
With love and encouragement,
Mizz Ma’am
